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The father – significant or conditional authority

Looking at our parents from the perspective of a child, we rarely see our father for who he is – imperfect and sufficient. According to our ingrained notions of a male parent, the father, unlike the mother, has to meet high standards. He must be strong, the protector of the family, a provider of goods and resources, to ensure security and prosperity in the home, to be successful and established in his profession and, if possible, at a high level in society. He is often internally rejected if he appears weak, hesitant, insecure, depressed, dependent on alcohol, or inadequate.
In our perceptions, he has an “indirect” involvement, even in our conception. THE MYSTERY of our creation takes place within the mother’s womb. If the “relationship with the mother” cultivates trust in life as a whole and the reassurance that no matter what happens, things will turn out well for us in the end, the “relationship with the father” that we have at a deep level, gives us the necessary self-confidence as men or women, confidence in the relationships with the opposite sex, the courage to assert ourselves and to establish ourselves in our profession and social life. For this to happen, it is good to accept our father exactly as he is – IMPERFECT. To admit that for to us, he is ENOUGH, even if only because he is one of our two parents – the people who gave us the most precious thing – Life.
The healing act is to mentally thank him for choosing our mother as his wife, and through their love, we came into this world. To say: “Dear dad, you occupy 50% of my heart, the other 50% belongs to my mother.
If the parents are separated, in conflict, or one of them has passed away, it is necessary to simply look at them with love and know that IN OUR HEART, THEY ARE ALWAYS TOGETHER.

Nikolay Gergelchev

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